Q: Hi Laina. I am a 24 year old female, & I have been with my first love ever since 2012.He has cheated,lied,and ended our relationship several times. When I lost my virginity to him, I became extremely clingy, and he said that me being clingy made him cheat. Each time he broke up with me, I accepted him back. Last may, he proposed to me. Now, he doesn't feel like I'm ever going to change and he wants to leave me again. I feel so lame, I don't know what to do or how to go on. Any advice?

Leave this man immediately. Honey, he is so lost and miserable. You have to know that cheating or the uncertainty has NOTHING to do with you. Someone doesn’t cheat because their partner is clingy. That is the biggest pile of bullshit I have ever heard. Men cheat because they are unhappy with themselves. They do it over and over again to try and fill the real void within themselves but are too afraid to do. Trust me, I just ended a relationship last year with a man who cheated on me time and time again. He always told me I had trust issues. Yelled and belittled me. Because he was extremely threatened that I was myself and he didn’t know how to be. Yet, because he was so guilty and afraid, he blamed everything on me. The only way this man can get help is by being alone for more than a year and facing his fears and his self love issues. He will continue to hurt you and himself over and over until he can face these things and I PROMISE you that cannot change if you are still together, letting him treat you the way he is. Leave. Say goodbye. He’s not happy with himself and he’s taking it out on you and that makes me very angry with this little pussy, I want to have a personal talk with him. He’s being very selfish. Leave him. He’s not ready for this kind of commitment AT ALL. I promise. 

Q: Hi Laina. I am a 24 year old female, & I have been with my first love ever since 2012.He has cheated,lied,and ended our relationship several times. When I lost my virginity to him, I became extremely clingy, and he said that me being clingy made him cheat. Each time he broke up with me, I accepted him back. Last may, he proposed to me. Now, he doesn't feel like I'm ever going to change and he wants to leave me again. I feel so lame, I don't know what to do or how to go on. Any advice?

Leave this man immediately. Honey, he is so lost and miserable. You have to know that cheating or the uncertainty has NOTHING to do with you. Someone doesn’t cheat because their partner is clingy. That is the biggest pile of bullshit I have ever heard. Men cheat because they are unhappy with themselves. They do it over and over again to try and fill the real void within themselves but are too afraid to do. Trust me, I just ended a relationship last year with a man who cheated on me time and time again. He always told me I had trust issues. Yelled and belittled me. Because he was extremely threatened that I was myself and he didn’t know how to be. Yet, because he was so guilty and afraid, he blamed everything on me. The only way this man can get help is by being alone for more than a year and facing his fears and his self love issues. He will continue to hurt you and himself over and over until he can face these things and I PROMISE you that cannot change if you are still together, letting him treat you the way he is. Leave. Say goodbye. He’s not happy with himself and he’s taking it out on you and that makes me very angry with this little pussy, I want to have a personal talk with him. He’s being very selfish. Leave him. He’s not ready for this kind of commitment AT ALL. I promise. 

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